And then, every night, I go home to my own messy kitchen, my own distant spouse, my own unwashed laundry.
You might think we would be the least likely to stray. After all, we have seen the aftermath. We have watched grown women sob on the floor after discovering a sext. We have mediated custody schedules for affairs that began with "just a drink after work."
Human beings are wired for adventure and discovery. If a marriage provides zero excitement, the urge to find that thrill elsewhere becomes incredibly strong. Temptation thrives in the quiet, mundane spaces of a predictable life. It offers a narrative of escape, promising a jolt of adrenaline to a system that has gone numb from routine. Confession 4: Loneliness Is the Ultimate Accelerator temptation confessions of a marriage counselor
The confession I hear most often is: "I didn't mean for it to happen."
If you are a marriage counselor struggling with temptation, please seek supervision and your own therapy. If you are a client who has experienced boundary violations, contact your state licensing board. We took an oath. Most of us keep it. But the ones who don't rely on your silence. And then, every night, I go home to
But the greatest temptation in life is to run away from our own reality and hide in someone else's. I realized that if I couldn't be honest with myself, I had no business trying to help anyone else be honest.
After hearing the tenth story of a dead bedroom, or the fifteenth iteration of “they just don’t listen,” I am tempted to give up. To nod my head, collect my fee, and secretly agree: This marriage is over. You should just leave. We have watched grown women sob on the
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